*hugs*

You *do* deserve some. It's just that, sometimes, timing and luck are the deciding factors.

*morehugs*

there are things that are neither good or slimy and that is the way (or A way anyway, and one I like and respond to). unfortunately brain processes most of this subconsciously so I can't really describe it enough to be useful... it's the people who are completely unassuming and direct that are the most compelling. the ones who manage to make a direct proposition without it being pushy or threatening. um, yeah, like I said, not useful.

As much as looks can be sexy, attitude is 90% of it. If you are self-confident, you will attract people. How do you become self-confident? Realize your good aspects. You're generous. You're fun to be around. You know a lot about comixxxxx and movies and stuff. Those are all good things. And you're not the typical geek whose life is only comics or work. You have many friends. Why do you have friends, if you don't deserve affection? You do deserve affection.

You just need to find the person that's right. Look, I *got some* even when I didn't *deserve some* because I had looks and knew that could get me some. But it didn't get me anywhere, because I dated guys who were jerks and didn't appreciate me. Only 2 previous boyfriends (besides my current sweetie) really appreciated me for who I was.

You, OTOH, have people who appreciate you, but don't have that sexual component. A little confidence in yourself and I promise, you'll have girls falling all over.