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evolution of a life goal

"to get some." No, wait. "to deserve some."

Went on to talk about why I'm doomed or not doomed... why I can't get by on being good, why it doesn't work when I'm slimy... why nothing seems to work.

And why I'm still stuck where I've been for 15 years.


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Feb. 5th, 2002 05:27 am (UTC)

You *do* deserve some. It's just that, sometimes, timing and luck are the deciding factors.

Feb. 5th, 2002 05:34 am (UTC)
there are things that are neither good or slimy and that is the way (or A way anyway, and one I like and respond to). unfortunately brain processes most of this subconsciously so I can't really describe it enough to be useful... it's the people who are completely unassuming and direct that are the most compelling. the ones who manage to make a direct proposition without it being pushy or threatening. um, yeah, like I said, not useful.
Feb. 5th, 2002 06:11 am (UTC)
How about ... the proposition that's likely to succeed is one that is 1) complimentary, 2) a self-confident assertion to another person as an equal, 3) a remark that doesn't demand a response in a particular direction (i.e., you're not assuming someone will go home with you, but you're suggesting to them that you'd love it if they did), and 4) not going to kill you if you're turned down (as in, you're not pinning all your life dreams on this person saying yes).
Feb. 5th, 2002 07:50 am (UTC)
As much as looks can be sexy, attitude is 90% of it. If you are self-confident, you will attract people. How do you become self-confident? Realize your good aspects. You're generous. You're fun to be around. You know a lot about comixxxxx and movies and stuff. Those are all good things. And you're not the typical geek whose life is only comics or work. You have many friends. Why do you have friends, if you don't deserve affection? You do deserve affection.

You just need to find the person that's right. Look, I *got some* even when I didn't *deserve some* because I had looks and knew that could get me some. But it didn't get me anywhere, because I dated guys who were jerks and didn't appreciate me. Only 2 previous boyfriends (besides my current sweetie) really appreciated me for who I was.

You, OTOH, have people who appreciate you, but don't have that sexual component. A little confidence in yourself and I promise, you'll have girls falling all over.
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