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Feeling better and worse right now.

Brookline has me worried. A 8/1 lease end date has me worried. A driveway shared with a stranger has me worried. A 7/1 move-in (swap, really) date has me vaguely worried. Other, cheaper options seem easier and closer, and cheaper. And I feel like I should have gone off on my own, instead of tying my fate to the guys...

Bleah. At least Ed's apartment is rented now. More importantly, I don't feel bad about that at all. It was way too expensive.

What to do, what to do. Maybe the driveway will work itself out. Maybe the move date will be all right. If those happen, then I think I'm all right with the lease ending in August... Apparently it's not an unheard of moving date.

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hforh
Apr. 26th, 2002 06:35 pm (UTC)
hmmm...
Moving decisions are often hard. At least for me, anyway.

What has worked for me: Get away by yourself, all alone, someplace that you can usually think well. (the woods, the bathroom, a chapel, a library, a taxi on the pike at rush hour, whatever.) On paper or in your favorite electronic medium, map out very explicitly what the choices are, and the pros and cons of each. Try to visualize as completely as possible what life would be like in the place or places you're considering.

Then consider how much these various pros and cons mean to *you* personally -- don't feel like you have to consider something a big plus just because it is for most people, and don't think you're making too big a deal out of things that feel like significant minuses -- YOUR life and YOUR habits are going to be different from anyone else's, and so maybe something like a shared driveway could be a big deal for you: if you drive a lot, if you have a weird or varied schedule, if you have times where you need to leave pronto on short notice.

I don't have any elaborate system for assigning value to each pro and con once I have them listed -- if I am somewhere I can really think, and I'm not feeling rushed, I can suddenly hear what my gut has been trying to tell me. I recommend prayer, too. :)

Once you know what's right for *you*, then you can factor in the other people and whether you want to put up with an inconvenience or two because it's in their best interest. But I think it's important to be very aware of the fact that you're doing that, and in order for that to happen, I think you have to know more clearly what *you* want.

From what I hear, you have a lot happening at work too -- so it might be hard to take the time to do this right, but if you carve out an hour or two, I bet it will be well worth it.

but, ya know, YMMV, and what do I know, anyway... :)
crs
Apr. 26th, 2002 08:11 pm (UTC)
Re: hmmm...
Thinking about what it would be like to live at the places, though, that was what nearly got me into the too-expensive 1BR in Davis Square. I mean, this was *right in* Davis, upstairs from the T, essentially. Beautiful location. No activation energy to get out the door in the morning, easy to just get up and go. Hang out in the square in my off hours, hop on over to the Diesel to hang out, or Your Move Games... Hit McKinnon's or that grocery store for fresh-ish small market groceries. It would be the life.

Though life two blocks from Coolidge Corner will be interesting in its own way. In a way I'm kinda looking forward to trying it. :) Theater, Trader Joe's, Sushi Places. Lots to recommend the area.

And I'll have *so* much more living space, living with the guys in this Brookline place. I find myself psyched for it again, suddenly.
hforh
Apr. 26th, 2002 06:57 pm (UTC)
Oh, and I don't think the 8/1 lease date will turn out to be bad... My lease is up 7/1, and back when I was looking, there was a big variety in start dates, esp. among places that are usually rented by more grownups than students.

crs
Apr. 26th, 2002 08:07 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice... Believe it or not, I actually did some of that already, when I was in Minnesota ("my" room in my parents' house is an excellent place to get away and thing :) and made the pros and cons list... Unfortunately, I made the decision on a false premise at the time. Allow me to explain.

I wrote down the pros of two options: 1) stay with the guys, live in Brookline, or 2) move into the 1BR place that a coworker was moving out of, right in Davis Square. 2 was deemed too expensive, as an overriding thing, that cause me to decide on 1 way too easily.

'cause now I am thinking that there are options 3) (move in with one of the group houses I know in the area) or even higher numbers... and I should have thought about those places...

So now I've committed to go with these guys if they go to Brookline. Since they cancelled appointments to see 3br places, and did things like that, when I said I was in. It's all right, really. It's an excellent place, I'll have to make sure to have people over to that one (unlike this one which I've just slept and watched tv in basically, despite it also being really nice)...

It's very good to hear that about the 8/1 lease date, though. I was worried we were digging ourself into a bad hole, accepting that. A few people have been saying what you said, though, now, so I feel better.

More to come...
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